Most problems in marriages today started when individual men
started forming churches and making their wife head of marriage
counseling, and their wife started propagating funny doctrines
with the support of their husband (the Pastor) claiming that
husband and wife are equal.
Husband and wife are equal in the whites' court marriage were
either party can walk away once they are tired by going back to
court and get divorce papers. But it is not same with Bible and
Quaran.
Read Pastor Chris Oyakhilome's position:
Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband
means master. The reason for most problems in Christian
marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of
marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners. If
most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they
will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very
happy people. Most women have never been taught by their
parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem
because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another
woman.
In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and
because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand
him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife
and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have
to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.When
you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his
authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1
Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his
authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both
heirs to the kingdom of God.When you decide not to subject
yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going
to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning
correctly.
Why did God make the woman?Making woman was not God’s
original plan because after God created Adam and before He
made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he
had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman
because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is
reality.Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good
for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but
“alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone.
Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a
partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him
what to do.I will make him someone to help him. God gave man
a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that
responsibility.
If this is understood in every home then you won’t have
problems.I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar,
you need the Word Seminar.
Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had
one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had
one.Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your
husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When
you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a
mother or of an older sister. A man loves the one he serves
(God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the
one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious
wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the
world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God
gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of
love. It’s a place of excellence. Every wise person listens to wise
voices (advice) but he listens to a wise voice that is presented
wisely. Everyone rebels against the voice that is trying to make a
fool out of him. When you want to correct your husband, don’t
lord it over him,present it as a wise suggestion. Humble yourself
and be smart. A wise woman will always be an influence to her
husband, the foolish one will always annoy the husband, make him
mad, make him angry and when you make him angry, you will be
the victim.
Learn to listen
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